A Letter To My future Wife

To my future wife,
I found myself thinking about
you today. Wondering where you
are, what you’re thinking and
doing. It hurts a little not to be
with you, but I can live with that
for now, knowing that we’ll
spend the rest of our lives
together. I’m writing this letter to
help you understand what I’ve
been thinking about and why. I
probably don’t know all the right
things to say, but my feelings and
words are from the heart.
Actually I find myself thinking
about you more and more. The
very idea of you provides a much
needed break from the pressures
of dating, relationships and life.
In the midst of it all – the thought
of you calms and refreshes me –
makes me smile, in spite of my
situation and surroundings.
I know it sounds crazy, but I
picture you – your smile, the way
you pull your hair behind your
ear, your wonderful laugh, even
when my jokes aren’t funny. I
can’t help but wonder what our
children will look like.
I’ve gone out with other girls, but
something always seems to be
missing. I go out and have fun
but the idea of you and our
future together is always in my
thoughts. It keeps me focused
and on track, aware of who I am
and what’s important.
And loving you, without ever
having met you, makes me want
to be deserving of your love. So I
wait for you – in mind, body, and
soul.
I don’t usually talk or write like
this, but my mind and heart are
racing with anticipation. Because
I love you, because I know you’re
out there. Because the very
thought of you makes my pulse
race, my palms sweat, my
stomach flip like I’m on a roller
coaster. And what better way to
show that I’ve always loved you
than to save myself for you –
completely. And I hope that
you’re doing the same.
I know waiting isn’t easy. We’re
taught to expect instant
gratification. We’re told we
shouldn’t have to wait – for
anything. Too often we act on
feelings or impulses, sacrificing
the future by buying into the lie
that sex equals love, leaving little
room for commitment or
marriage. But that’s not love and
that’s not why I’m thinking about
and waiting for you.
I’m waiting for you because I
love you unconditionally. And I
need you to know that what
matters to me is not where
you’ve been or what you’ve done,
but where you’re going. Maybe
you didn’t know I existed. Or you
thought that we’d found each
other, only to realize later that
what you discovered wasn’t true
love. Real love is so different from
infatuation or simple pleasure. It
isn’t abusive or selfish or purely
physical. Real love involves
mutual respect, affection, trust,
equality, and a shared spirituality.
Real love doesn’t revolve around
sex! Real love grows into a
relationship where intimate
intimacy will only serve to
express that love – marriage.
I talked with a friend the other
day about chastity – modesty and
purity in our thoughts, words,
the way we dress and act – how
it’s a building block for a perfect
love that casts out all fear. And
sex before marriage brings many
fears – pregnancy, STDs, the
emotional scars associated with
broken relationships. So, in the
search for perfect love, it only
makes sense to practice chastity
and wait until you’re married to
give yourself to the person you
love. And --- OUR marriage will
bring with it the promise of
forever. We will give ourselves to
one another completely, become
best friends – soul mates. So
even though we may be apart
right now, by living chastely for
each other in the present we can
build our future together.
Have you ever been in the middle
of doing something when you
stop to think, “This would be
perfect if….?” Those words come
to mind often – for example, on a
Fall day, with leaves covering the
ground and crisp, cool breezes
blowing, and I think, “This would
be perfect if…. She were here.”
The thought that someday you
will be here comforts me.
And… I want that same thought
to comfort you. Whether you
realize it or not, I’ve been there in
your thoughts, that shiver or the
goose bumps you get every once
in a while – in the long daydream
or a lingering glance. You don’t
have to wonder anymore,
because I’m real, I love you and I
am waiting for you – in every
way. And now that you know I’m
here, I hope you’ll do the same.
Whenever you feel scared,
unsure, or pressured to give a
part of yourself away, read this
letter. Think about us and how
perfect it will be when we are
together.
You may have been waiting and
looking for me all the while. You
may be starting today. Either
way, we’ll know when we’ve
found each other; we’ll be
together for the rest of our lives
and the wait will have been
worthwhile.
All My Love,
Your Future Husband